Monday, September 21, 2009

Overprotective Behavior

If you were to check Websters for the definition of Overprotective parent, you would most likely find my picture next to the description. It's funny because I never thought I would be that parent. I always saw myself as the one sending my kids off to the grandparents for the weekend, or to whoever would take them off my hands so I could get a little adult time, within reason, of course. Only, I'm not like that at all.

I've allowed the Munchkin to stay with her Oma, once. Once away from our own house. One night, and it almost killed me I missed her so much. Being here without her was just weird. We tried a spend the night for Tooty's bday, but even her love of the "Peas" family was no match for her wanting her mommy at bedtime, which ended in Daddypeas driving her home close to midnight.

This year in school, she will be going on more field trips, ones that not all of the parents can attend, like we did last year. I quickly signed up for everything thinking there is no way in hell she's going without me..... Only, I'm on the sublist for driving because they take parents that can chauffeur the most kids first, (remind me to re-think the minivan.) When I saw my name on the alternate list, my immediate reaction was, well, too bad she won't be going.... So many thoughts were going through my mind..

I don't know who's care she will be in, what if I haven't met this person driving her?

What if they don't install the carseat properly? People aren't always A-N-A-L like me when it comes to carseat safety, trust me on this one. It amazes me how half assed some people will install the seat that protects their most prized possession. Crooked and loose. Belt it, Hook it, latch it, tether it, whatever you need to do to keep them safe, not crooked and convenient so you can reach back there to shove food in their mouth when their hungry and whiney.... But, I digress.

What if this person driving is a terrible driver?

Who will watch her closely when they get there? No one will keep on an eye on her like I would.

And the irrational fears list goes on and on.. and still here I sit only days away from a very defining moment for me as a parent. I've talked with Husband about this at length a couple of times and the only reason I don't feel completely crazy is because he was concerned too.

Our thought right now is to let her go. We trust these teachers to watch her on a daily basis, this is their job. They take the trips every year, they know how to install these carseats. If I were driving other peoples kids, I would be just as much of a freak about their seats as I am my own. I can only hope that some of these parents are the same as me. I'm sure that's part of the reason they signed up to drive, right?

Random Mommy and I have had multiple discussions about this over the past weeks, so I'm not the only freak parent in our class.... Although, she has emailed the teacher on our behalf and I reserve the right to change my mind without notice as the trip gets closer.


Michelle said...

I know where you are coming from. I used to be very overprotective of B when he was little but when I met hubby he told me to chill a bit. I am glad over the years we have meshed our parents styled and he became more concerned and I have relaxed it bit. It will come.

Anonymous said...

Oh you're not alone. I am allowing Tooty on a walking field trip to the fire station in a few weeks but haven't made up my mind for the Harvest Day at a farm yet - where she'll be driven. Bottomline - I endlessly trust two people with my kids besides Hubby and I and that's it. Nothing wrong with that - it's just parenting.

Instead - why don't you just ask if you can attend as an extra chapperone - blame it on Munchkin.

Kellie said...

It is so hard "not" to be an overprotective parent. Especially in the world that we live in today.

I try to be a little more laid back but it's not easy and in many cases I find that I prefer to be overprotective.