Monday, April 13, 2009

Overheard at Target....

While shopping at Target, a lady on the phone wandered down the baby aisle while I was perusing the less than impressive selection of organic options. She was on the phone with someone (I assumed her husband) when I heard her say....

Lady: I don't know what to do, I told him it cost $30 and it's just too expensive. He doesn't need anymore toys anyway.

Person on the phone says something... (probably along the lines of nut up woman, you are the parent....but I'm just guessing)

Lady responds: I told him we can't afford it, but he won't let me put it back.

Expecting to see a 400lb Sumo Wrestler holding a knife to her throat, I had to turn around to see who this very demanding person was. I turned slightly to peek and I was greeted with the cutest little grin you have ever seen, happy about the toy he was holding and how it wasn't going back on the shelf. He was 2ish, probably a little older, and I'm assuming instead of a knife to his moms throat it was the threat of one hellish tantrum, in public no less.

Now I get being terrified of the tantrum that a toddler or preschooler can throw down on you in a store, I have witnessed a few from my own child that would make the head spinning Linda Blair look like the Easter Bunny, but to say that "He won't let you," Are you kidding me? He won't let you not buy a toy for him that you say you can't afford? Can we say tail wagging the dog? I get giving in to demanding kids, there are just times when you don't have it in you to fight the fight but I'll be damned if I buy something I can't afford because a toddler threatens to throw a tantrum if I don't. Use that time as a learning experience for your child, he's old enough for you to teach, give options and explain things to. To simply call someone and tell them about how this little terrorist won't let you, is giving up, and setting you up for bigger problems down the road. I really don't like to judge peoples parenting styles..... oh, who am I kidding? I call it like I see it, and if you are talking loud enough for everyone in the store to hear your "dilemma," then you are opening yourself up for people like me to put you on a blog.... So there you have it, your daily does of judgementalness from I'm a Mom!..? No purchase required!

4 comments:

Superwoman said...

Wow. It makes you wonder how often her kid holds her hostage like that. And how far in debt she already is giving into demands.

I don't mind your judgments, but heck...I don't have kids. =)

random_mommy said...

Judging isn't as awful as it sounds. I think judging other people is fine as long as we judge ourselves too. And you do. Some things are stupid and should be judged as such.

I've seen these parenting types too. I've had them in my classroom. It's not pleasant and only gets worse as the kids get older. It's one of the most damaging things you can do.

countryfriedmama said...

I have to echo Random Mommy. As a former high school teacher, I expect this woman is grooming a truly terrible future teenager. I feel bad for the teachers who will encounter the two of them in the coming years.

Judge away.

Danielle said...

I'm sure he "forced" her to go into the toy dept too...

Maybe we all just have more sense than to take a kid into a store, show him what he can't have, and expect him to be okay with it. I know I throw a tantrum when Tim does that to me.;p