Tuesday, September 30, 2008

Birthday-Gate 08'

Never in my life would I have thought that a child's birthday party could be so political, but alas, I have learned something new while traveling through this world of parenthood. Maybe I'm different, but If I don't get an invite to a party, I don't stress it, they may not have had space for me, they may not like me, they may not know me well enough... any way I look at it, they have a reason for doing what they do. That does not mean that I will have hard feelings towards them or withhold an invite to them in the future. I will not worry about all of the who's who that is involved. It's just a birthday party.

I have been looking at my life a lot lately and have decided that I need to surround myself with people that I respect, like/love and that bring something to the table. I want people around that are going to be a good influence on my girls and people that love them almost as much as they love their own. When making out the list for the Munchkin's party, I looked at all of these things, along with the space that I have at my house. There are people that I truly adore that did not get an invite this year. I had to narrow it down to the people that we spend the majority of our time with, and the kids that the Munchkin could actually pick out of a crowd. I'm even having to have a second party to accommodate all of the family that I couldn't have here for the first round of festivities.

That's it, it's really pretty simple. There was no maliciousness behind my reasoning. A child's birthday party is supposed to be filled with joy and happiness and for anyone trying to cause problems and drama in the midst of this happy time should be ashamed of themselves. They should also ask themselves this question:

Am I truly upset that I won't be there to see the look on Munchkins face when she blows out her candles, or am I acting like a child because everyone got an invite but me?

I think we all know the correct response here and if it's the latter, then that is why you didn't get an invite.


Anonymous said...

I don't know how you have it in you to do 2 parties. You know family will get her something anyway, whether we/they are invited or not. Munchkin knows we all love her. Make it easy on yourself, unless you are planning the 2 party thing to go on every year. I won't get my feelings hurt. We'll just catch up with you at your mom's or your grandparent's.
Much Love,
Your Aunt
"People who matter don't judge,
And people who judge don't matter."
(I don't remember where I heard that, but it helps when considering what kind of people you want to be around on a regular basis)

J said...

I like your Aunt.

Heather S. said...

You just have to do what works best for you. If people are offended that they didn't get invited to a child's b-day party then something is seriously wrong with them. If you didn't invite one of your dearest friends then I would understand if they got offended. When you know SO mnay people b/c you lead a group like ours it is pretty obvious that you can't invite everyone. If they don't understand, oh well, they'll get over it!! HAVE A GREAT B-DAY MUNCHKIN!!!

Madie's Mom said...

I agree with your Aunt. And I love her quote...I think I may use it if a situation ever allows me too. You have way too much on your plate to stress about a party. Just wait until The Girls have their first party.

We are friends and I know this from my heart and we always will be....no matter how many parties we attend. You guys are still tops on our list.

Madie and I wish Munchkin the best birthday ever...celebrated in Dora fashion.

They grow up too fast to sweat the small stuff.

Love ya!
Madie's Mom

MommaDrool said...

Your Aunt is right! Don't sweat it...I am gradually coming to terms with the fact that I will never be able to make everyone happy no matter how hard I try. It's not about them....it's about The Munchkin and her special day!

Hope you have a very Happy Birthday, Munchkin!

Poodlehead said...

Wow! How did you hear me yelling all the way down here? ;)

Whatever happened I'm sure it upset you. When you have so many friends, someone is bound to be left out.

I'm a Mom!..? said...

Please tell me you weren't bitching about me too!!