Friday, January 04, 2008

Can't We All just Get Along?

The answer to that question these days seems to be hell no. I don't usually do cryptic, try to be sly, but not really sly posts or comments on my Facebook page, but this post to some, will be cryptic. For others it's going to hit the nail on the head, you are going to know exactly who you are. I've been holding this post for a while, but it seems again like things are being misconstrued, so I thought I would set the record straight on my end.

I have a lot of people that I like to call friends, but hold a dear few as my super, close, "porn buddy" friends. There are many reasons for this and if you are a girl you should know why. Girls like to run their mouths. We by nature, like to talk, a lot. We gossip, we make fun of, it's what we do. I'm not going to sit here and say that I don't talk about people behind their backs, because I do. For you to say you don't makes you a liar. I have a few very close friends that I talk to about everything. When Hubby tells me not to tell, he knows that I will tell them. Unless he has specifically said it's titanium fight club. When I have problems with people, they are the ones I go to for advice, when I'm upset they are the ones that encourage me, those are the people that I call my best friends. I think that you can have lots of people in your life that are friends, but only a few that are your "inner circle."

I don't have ulterior motives, if I don't like you, you will pretty much know it. If I don't like you I won't go out of my way to do things for you. And for the record there are very few people that I just don't like. If I have a problem with you and you are an important person to me, I will try to work it out. If we can't or don't, I won't go and explain to multiple people, who will then tell multiple people and so, what went wrong, for it to eventually be so far off base it's no where near the actual truth. It is what it is, it's called taking the high road. I won't make little jabs at you on public forums for no reason, I have better things to do, trust me. So you can rest assured when I put something on my status that you don't understand it's not about you. Really, it's not.

I've learned a lot lately about myself and about others. People change, sometimes for the good, sometimes for the bad. Girls in their 30's and 40's are no different than high school girls who like to gossip. People that say they don't want to be involved or in the middle are the ones that are always up to their eyeballs in the middle of EVERYTHING.

I will never put my friends in bad situations, situations that will make them feel the need to apologize for my behavior. I will never talk bad about my friends or go behind them and try to get others to do the same. That's not what friends do. I will not apologize for only wanting a few really close friends. What I don't understand is why people, grown women have to act so childish. Why do grown women let others dictate who they can be friends with? Why do grown women still try to bully people around? Those are the thing I've yet to figure out.

So, to answer the question. Is this post about you? If you even remotely think it is, it's probably your conscience telling you it is. If you have something to say to me, please say it, if I have misinterpreted some of the gossipy bullshit I've overheard, please feel free to correct me. I'm just so tired of the high school behavior that has become so transparent my 9 month olds could figure it out. Say it, to me.

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